I’m usually a rough an’ tumble guy, not in a macho or undignified way, and I clean up pretty nicely as a studied and cultivated person. I'm generally quiet and introverted, dangerously intelligent. I enjoy being with people, and I enjoy my times of solitude. When I'm with people I tend towards simple things with occasional bursts of excitement. Smiles and soul felt connecting are important. I'm not into noisy crowds, thrill seeking or sophisticated living. My times of solitude are just that . . . I've been described as a Melancholy-Phlegmatic, meaning, I'm prone to perfectionism, gifted, aesthetic, sensitive, conscientious and can be moody, critical, and ungrateful. I'm also quiet, calm, organized, diplomatic, and gracious, and can be unmotivated and self-righteous. I am typically frugal, preferring a rustic cabin to a five star hotel, shorts and a tee shirt to a tie and coat, a small country home (with a yard and garden, flowers, lots of flowers) to a suburban manor. I lean towards planned activities and practical gifts while remaining flexible; sentimental gifts and spontaneous activities fuel the spirit. I'm a Sears and Lowes; Saturday's are for home projects; Sunday’s for reverence, rest and family, type of guy. Add an occasional adventure and I'm content. Experience has taught me to find strength in weakness. I believe we should serve one another, not demand and scheme for what we want. The only solution to our wickedness is being Spirit led. Writing doesn’t do either of us justice – we need to spend time together . . . eventually. This is not meant in any smug attitude - just a behavioral and psychological fact that only 7% of our heart and soul can be expressed by writing - I wouldn't expect us to know one another without first hearing one another’s voice and seeing one another’s expressions and body language. Prepare to see my worst (and please accept it) – if you can’t give me grace at my worst then you don’t merit the blessing of my best. I promise the same consideration to you. After all, haven’t I already done so . . .

My Ideal Person What do I want? Physical affection (read: "sex"). A friend. No emotional commitments (our emotions will surely be involved - just let’s don't bring any expectations). And let’s not confuse emotional involvement with emotional commitment. I want someone to share some time, an intimate conversation, a long walk on a forest trail, or an evening watching thunderstorms. Well - let's see. On the expectation issue – you can expect to be treated with respect, kindness, and playfulness. All that I would expect in return. If a commitment develops, so much the better, and really the way it should be, the way we were designed to be. Oh, and you can expect one other thing - if we do get in bed (or on the kitchen counter or sofa or where ever) you can expect to quiver and quake until your toes curl up backwards . . . . And then if you want, we might do it all over again . . .

Now you youngin’ out there, I am often quite attracted and am liable to make a move quicker than you can blink your eyelashes, but do you really want a guy who treats you like you father (should) treat a daughter? Tread carefully here, I’m just as liable to guard you from this sinful world as I am to turn you every which way but loose . . . .

Gals - I enjoy looking at a nice firm butt as much (maybe more so) than any other guy, however, if you "stick a photo of it in my face" I'm liable to move on. Give me a photo with your face, emotions are conveyed thru expressions, especially the eyes, so please remove your sunglasses. And like any man, my ignition switches are fired by visual stimulation . . . but before the initial attraction wears off I want to know your heart. Open it and be vulnerable, as I am, and we can meet at a place much deeper than the physical . . . .

Tell one of your favorite sexual fantasies. Don't hold back!:
Short skirts and simi-public areas, i.e., a hiking trail.

What location do you fantasize about for a sexual encounter?:
A bed, The beach, The middle of a park, A remote wilderness spot, Under a waterfall, My desk at work, A swimming pool or hot tub, A store dressing room, An elevator, A hotel room, Kitchen counters, easy chairs.

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Fetishes, Light Bondage, Mutual Masturbation, Food Play, Blindfolds, Massage

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Physical attraction, Same/similar fetishes, Ability to be discreet, Sexual appetite, Willingness to freely discuss and try anything, Creativity/Kinkiness level, Emotional sharing.

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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